I just heard a discussion with a family law judge from Michigan. The focus was on parenting plans. It’s worth a listen. Here it is:
The Roal of a Family Court Judge :: Divorce Source Radio | Free Audio Programs Related to Divorce
Or, I can sum it up.
1. Put your children first.
2. Fault (i.e. a spouse’s conduct during the marriage) is a “limited” factor during a divorce proceeding. In other words, it may alter financial orders to some degree but will not change financial orders dramatically.
3. Often times people are better parents post-divorce because the divorce is finalized and there is less tension and turmoil.
4. If at all possible, try to settle your case rather than having a “stranger in a black robe” decide what is best for you and your child. The judge could never know a child or what is best for him or her the way a parent does.