Just read a great article from fellow family law attorney Henry Gornbein setting forth seven things clients should never say to their divorce lawyer.
Henry Gornbein: Things You Should Never Say To Your Divorce Lawyer
A few thoughts:
These “things” are not unique to divorce law. Many of these points apply equally as well to most types of litigation.
I especially agree with the notion that revenge has no place in divorce litigation (thing #1). Those seeking payback (angry litigants) will likely be disappointed in how little the “system” cares about meting out vengeance. In fact, it often backfires – particularly with child custody.
In addition, taking legal advice from friends and/or relatives is not good for your health (point #3). Every case is different. The variables are countless. I am sure those close to you are well intentioned. However, relying on them or comparing your case to theirs will just leave you frustrated and second-guessing matters unnecessarily.
Finally, I will add my own “thing” to never do. Mislead. Withhold information. Engage in any form of deception. You get the idea. Examples include: filing an inaccurate Financial Affidavit, not telling your lawyer the “real” truth”, testifying falsely at a deposition or during a court hearing and hiding income or assets. Get caught engaging in any of these behaviors and you are ruined. And your lawyer will not be able to pick up the pieces.